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Haven’t listened to it yet, but saw this on my phone this morning: “What is feminist sex, post-Roe?” I don’t think anyone truly knows the answer to that question, and in reality, the answer would vary for everyone. I’m not even sure modern feminism always knows what it’s trying to accomplish. But still, I know a lot of adults (logical) and with maybe 3–7 exceptions, none of them want to talk about sex, even though it’s a major driver of human happiness and generalized week-over-week contentment (probably especially for guys). Can we get more open about this stuff? Let’s have a little discourse below.
First: Should we be more open?
In most (certainly not all) families, discussions around a few topics are frowned upon. Those topics are often:
- Sex
- Failure
- Money
- (less so) Religion
- (less so) Politics
This all gets pretty fraught. Sex creates you and it’s a focal point of your life and future relationships, even if a bunch of the sheet-rolling you do is ultimately transactional. Failure basically is about your ability to bounce back from the bullshit — and believe me, life will sling you a lot of bullshit — but most of us don’t have great mechanisms for admitting failure and pushing past it. (See also: Trump, Donald.) Money determines the life you can have in a capitalism, but it’s gauche to discuss it, so we don’t. Then what happens? No one really understands how their salary is calculated, which gives most of the negotiating power back to the organization in any hiring situation.
Maybe it’s time we started being more open about some of this stuff. Let’s start with sex, for one.
Everybody Lies
While this is a true statement, it’s also the title of a new book which is essentially about how what we Google reveals the truth about us. Can you argue this is a flawed assumption? Sure. But if you argue that, you probably already have your head pretty far up your own tuckus, so good luck therein.
